The one where I overshare

Hey , how have you been?

Soooo, I moved out of Abuja.

Well, for now (yes, I'm still hesitating).

And girl, it's been harddddd. When the opportunity to move out of Abj came, I knew it was time. I was super excited but I was scared shitless. I was scared because I honestly didn't know what to expect. You know that sense of hope that comes with trying something new, right? Yeah I had it but somewhere in the back of my head, I was worried about how I would adjust to Lagos especially with everything we’ve heard about it. And who the heck moves from Abuja to Lagos, right???

There's this sense of security and invisible covering you feel when you are in a city where you have your tribe or you have built a community for yourself. I didn’t realize how much effect not having that community would have on me. I thought all it took to adjust  was to get used to the new city and their culture but no, It’s the people, the people make up the city and having your people makes you love that city.

Sundays used to be my favorite day of the week because I'd see my church sweethearts. I loved leaving my house (once in a while), I loved walking around the places I lived, the cute dates I went on and the evening drives I went on often. I loved looking forward to seeing my best girl every Sunday, I loved knowing that my dad was one phone call away, I loved knowing that my nieces, nephews and cousins were around. I had a community that loved me in Abuja.

For someone who is a sucker for being alone and just existing in her world, I didn't realize how connected I was to people and how these connections never allowed me to feel lonely. There was always someone to turn to or somewhere to go or at least something to do.

Phew, it's been hard.

I am just glad I came to Lagos through my family, I’m glad I live with people that love me and are not putting me under any pressure at all. I’m glad I have my time and space to myself and I can take all the time I want to adjust.

I’m also grateful for, well, friendships.  

I read somewhere that if you want to enjoy where you are, you're going to have to let go of where you used to be😢😢. Abuja is literally part of my life and I know nobody wakes up one day and just forgets about places and experiences like that but I think I want to start thinking of Abuja like it’s my past. I want to look at where I am as where I should be because it is. 

And I want to open my mind to meeting and connecting to new people and building a community here. 

If I keep going, I'll keep crying so let me stop…

How about you, how was September for you? Do you miss someone or an experience? Did you Japa? Did something major happen? 

Tell me, I really want to know.

I pray October comes with good news and strength. I’m rooting for you , I mean it.

See you next week.

Love, Alice