So What Did You Learn?

When I was a child my parents, especially my mother had this habit that sucked the fun out of everything we watched. No matter what was on the TV, one inevitable question that followed every watch was “So, what did you learn from it?”  

It was annoying. You’ll be innocently watching something just to laugh, and suddenly it becomes an exam. And of course, saying “I learned that it’s not good to be bad” would never pass. Not for Sister Grace, no. Serious life lessons only. 

I remember the first time we watched White Chicks. We were laughing uncontrollably and having the time of our life, so much so that we didn’t even realize sister Grace had joined us. We were having a good time oh, Next thing NEPA struck and immediately they did, the dreaded question followed.

What exactly were four-to-ten-year-olds supposed to learn from White Chicks? There was no answer of course. That’s how they banned that movie o. In fact, I remember my mummy saying “Don’t even finish the movie. Once they bring the light back, remove the CD and return it from where you got it.”

Till date, I’ve not gotten around watching that movie again. I don’t know whether it’s because ‘my mummy said I should not watch it again’  🤣😆

I didn’t start writing this to relive my childhood. I bring it up because as I've gotten older, just like many other things, that question has begun to make so much sense beyond movies(of course 🙄) 

Every experience in life comes with its lesson and sometimes we get so caught up with the situation that we completely miss the lesson. And life has a way of replaying the same script with different characters, prolong the shege until you are able to answer the question “so what did you learn”

That’s why, for my first mail this year, I want to encourage you to look deeper into everything you encounter. The good days. The bad ones. The in-betweens. The absolutes. Sit with them. Question them. Extract the lesson.

Don’t let an experience happen twice simply because you refused to learn the first time.

Imagine how much wiser, and honestly, how much less disappointed you’d be if you treated every situation as an opportunity to sit with yourself and ask what exactly is being taught in that season. Who knows? Maybe by the end of this year, you’ll finally see that thing everyone has been pointing out… or finally understand yourself better… or finally break that cycle you’ve been stuck in.

Meanwhileeee, happy new year . I pray from the depth of my heart that this year you find answers to the questions you’ve been asking, that the things you’ve given up on are restored, that you are stationed in the center of God’s will for your life and that your mind is expanded to see possibilities beyond your current reality. I am rooting for you this year.

We’re winning and learning along the way this year, right??

All my love, 

Alice.

PS: Please write me back. Send me emails, talk to me more this year. I love to know that it’s a two way conversation💖💖